How to fill it in
Work through it with your partner, then take it to a prenatal visit so your provider can tell you what is and is not possible where you are giving birth. That conversation is the real point of the exercise.
- Start with the header: your name, due date, provider, birth place, and any medical notes the team needs, like your blood type and Group B strep result.
- For each section, cross out what does not apply and fill the brackets with what you want. Leave the rest to your team.
- Mark the two or three things you feel strongest about so they stand out. A team can honor a short, clear list far more easily than three pages of detail.
- Use plain preferences, not ultimatums. 'I would like intermittent monitoring if it is safe' reads better to a nurse than a demand.
- Ask your provider what their default practice is for the things you care about, so there are no surprises in the room.
- Print a few copies to bring with you, and give one to your partner or doula to keep handy.